Romance is one of if not the greatest genre of all kinds of entertainment; music, movies, books, you just name it. And we gals definitely help promote it. I mean using myself as an example, any movie or novel that has no romance in it is absolutely wack. Well, can you blame us? We’re the emotional species right? And love happens to be the biggest muse of them all.
So anyway, is romance really healthy for us? And before you kill me, what I mean by that is, seeing romance movies, reading romance novels and even listening to love songs, is that healthy for our lives and relationships? I really don’t think so. These things give us an idea as to what love should be like and when our relationships don’t meet these expectations; we conclude that it cannot possibly be love. Nollywood movies have given us the notion that the handsome prince falls in love with the poor village girl. So does this mean I have to be poor and ugly to catch the attention of that handsome guy I’m eyeing? Hollywood definitely did not make things better. They present to us this fantasy of forever and once in a lifetime love. They give us this idea of what love should feel like and how those in love should behave. Because of all these, we set our standards high and begin to look for that perfect relationship. It’s the height of deception as far as I’m concerned.
Now am I saying we should no longer read romance books or see romance movies? No way! Life would become boring without all that drama surrounding us. I mean, there are moments you just want to chillax and read or watch something simple, something that isn’t mind boggling. My point is that even while seeing these movies or reading the books, we should constantly give ourselves reality checks and remember that it’s fantasy. And also let’s not make it a constant thing. Too much of it will confuse the mind.
I’m also not saying that we should not have reasonable expectations as to what our relationships should be like, the key word should be reasonable. I’m not saying settle for less but understand that there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. You can only find that person who’s perfect for you.
So, what do you think? Are you in agreement or do you disagree? Leave a comment and let me know. Lots of love from me to you.